There are people who apply for a job, not because they intend to make any meaningful contribution to the organization but because they just need to pay their bills. These people really don’t care about the growth of the company; as long as they get their pay, they are cool (at least until they get a better offer in another company). These are the same people who don’t have a problem taking a part-time job in another competing company while working in your company.
There are others who would sometimes go out of their way to ensure the company grows. They are not particularly bothered about how much they are being paid or any added benefits, they are more concerned about the success of the organization.
Relationships are the same way. There are people who come into your life because of the pay (the care, attention, sex, prestige, fame, protection, etc), without any intention of growing you. They’ll stay as long as the pay keeps rolling in. One way to identify them is that they only come to you when they need you, you’ll hardly find them when you need them. As a matter of fact, it’s as if you’ve committed a crime if you can’t meet their need because they’ll try to make you feel guilty about it. Another way to identify them is they are not particularly interested in other areas of your life especially if they have nothing to benefit from it directly.
On the other hand, there are those who are more interested in seeing you grow than they are in getting their pay. They’ll stick with you through thick and thin. One way to identify them is that they are interested in other areas of your life whether or not it has anything to do with them directly. They are concerned about making you whole not just in the areas they need you. Giving good advice to you comes naturally to them (most times you don’t even need to ask them)
It is your duty as the CEO of your life to identify these different groups of people and make necessary adjustments because there’s a possibility that certain people in your life don’t deserve where you’ve placed them.